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dear parents if you suspect your child is queer and you aren't against it please tell them that. that in case they are, they can trust you and that you support them. especially if youre like 90% sure
@chfour Yes. When they can trust you.
@chfour Something I wrote *with* my daughter a while ago, about coming out to your parents.
@chfour I took my kids to picnics with my friends who are queer and have kids. So when they came out to me it wasn’t a big deal.
@chfour preferably if you're 99% or more sure – getting it wrong is going to be awkward.
But if you're not against it, I trust you to have dropped hints along the way, like talking about queer people in a positive or merciful way or just expressing the hypothetical 'if you were, I would not have an issue.' in a reversal of 'what would our names been if we'd been boys' I've asked my kids which boys' names they would have preferred (1: none, 2: I don't know, 3: Justin 
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@chfour
Sp and I actually discussed this before we got married. I’m not sure we’d be married if either of us had had any reaction other than support for our future kids. Glad we did, since two of them are trans and the other two have multiple queer friends.
Talk to your kids. 
@maeow@meow.woem.cat@chfour even do that if you don’t suspect anything.
@chfour we did this very early on with our kid.
This whole generation in high school is now far now aware that there are options in the gender identity department and they are exploring it whether parents like it or not.
This is one genie they can't put back in the bottle.
@chfour even if you don’t suspect them being queer, please tell them you have nothing against it.
It’s called “showing your child how to be a decent human being”.
@lunahd@labyrinth.zone@chfour i disagree, please do not
its always gonna be a really awkward conversation
theyre gonna question how you found out
please do still openly show that you support queer people
get a pride flag or something
@lunahd@labyrinth.zone@chfour i cannot understate how bad this can turn out if theyre still questioning. might put them deeper in denial, or strengthen some internalized homophobia
@lunahd@labyrinth.zone@chfour the point is make them feel safe and they will tell you
coming out is on their terms, not on yours
@lunahd im just saying i wouldnt have needed to be paranoid about them kicking me out or something if they had just told me earlier. because i sure as hell was not planning to come out to them
@lunahd @chfour
I really like the idea of demonstrating that you're a safe person to come out to by openly supporting the rights of everyone to be who they are and just letting that speak for itself.
Even if your assumption about your kid is wrong, you've still demonstrated an excellent model of how to treat and respect people.